I sent my defoo letter to my parents a few months ago,and I am just getting around to posting the letter they sent in reply.
I sent a very brief letter,just I was working through some issues and that family stuff was not helping.And that I would contact them when and if I was ready,and for them not to contact me.It was pretty much word for word what Steff said in his letter to his mother, in one of the early podcasts.So here is the response.....It was hand written by my mother.And when she writes me it is in very chicken scratch writting I have told her previous that I have a hard time reading them and sometimes just give up.But this letter was written very neatly.
We received your LETTER requesting a break from the family so you could work through some painful issues. We are willing to take off the masks & talk openly & honestly with you- to walk through this difficult time with you if you would let us. But until you are ready we will respect your desire to be Left Alone- hard as that will be.
We apologize for anything we have done in the past or present that has hurt you. Should this be the case- we hope you will be able to find it within yourself to forgive us.
We LOVE you so much; we hurt with you & for you. We look forward to a restored relationship with you.
Mom & Dad
If you think you are dealing with post traumatic stress-please seek professional help.
When I read this I started laughing.It was very similar to the letter Christina recevied from her father when they were going to Greece.
They apologize for ANYTHING they may have done......this is sad.
I went into the Marine Corps when I turned 19.And have been gone since,I am now 30.In the last 18 months I found out that my older sister,went to therpy to deal with issues she had with my parents.But of course when I try to ask anyone about this everyone changes the conversation..and acts like everything is ok.
It has been nearly a month since I have Defooed and I feel free! I still think about it but not as much.I am not as depressed as much eather.....I have thought before and after the letter what it would take to even try to have a relationship with them again and they are for My parents to give up there religion/faith, and to go to a non-christian therapist alone and together.But I cannot see this ever happining.Hope this letter might help someone.