Okay... Everyone might hate me after I write this... but, let's do it. Either I have issues that I need to resolve, or there are serious flaws in your logic. More likely, both, because I already know I have to work on myself a lot more.
"I don't think you give parents enough credit. Parents know what they are doing"
Evidence please... Have you seen the society we all live in? The history of human civilization? Constant war, murder, and self destruction ringing any bells? Rampant statism?... Am I the only one who sees it?
Maybe it's just because I have a mild form of Aspergers, but every time I hear a young woman tell me that she wants to have children, I immediately ask "Are you happy?", because it's the obvious question... They look at me like I have 5 heads. Most people have absolutely never considered the idea that it would be immoral to have children if they were unhappy, because that's not part of the propaganda they are fed every day of their lives. Most people don't question anything. People are dumb as hell. Occasionally, they'll even try to tell me that "science has proven that having children releases endorphins". To that I want to respond "So you're certain that will be enough endorphins?", and sometimes I do, it doesn't go over well.
Where is the evidence for all of these brilliant self aware people in our species history? A couple of them wrote books, but were they listened to by the masses? How does recommending "Atlas Shrugged" go over in modern society? Do a lot of people look at you like you're probably a greedy jerk? A lot of people look at me that way when I recommend it. What did Stefan say in his most recent video? Consistently less than .5% of people vote libertarian, despite it's obvious advantages.
"I'm always a little annoyed to see how quickly people credit abuse to ignorance"... I'm always a little annoyed when people put words in my mouth that have nothing to do with what I said. I credited spanking, to being beaten by a drunk alcoholic war veteran. Hurt people, hurt people. I credited unhappy people having children, with ignorance. Not just ignorance, but ignorance and propaganda, if you don't see evidence of that rampant ignorance and propaganda... open your eyes.
"And sympathy is to say to yourself that if you were in the same situation, you might do the same thing"... Yeah, if I was beaten, bruised, and bloodied by an alcoholic father who hit my mother, and was then told my entire life that spanking is how you discipline a child, I might have spanked my child, as 90% of people in America do. Does that make me a horrible human being? Can you have sympathy, for people who do horrible things? No? I'm inclined to dismiss you out of hand then. I have complete and utter sympathy for someone who abuses drugs, or steals food, because they're miserable and broken human beings.
How many times do I have to say, that having sympathy for another human being isn't the same thing as excusing their horrible actions? I have a lot of sympathy for an incompetent, and unemployed man who steals food to feed himself, or his family, and then serves time for it. No amount of prison time is enough for you? No matter how many times he's raped for robbing a liquor store you have no sympathy whatsoever? I have news for you then... You might be a psychopath.
I would never hit my child... partially because I wasn't beaten by my father, and didn't see him ever strike my mother. My father was beaten by his, and his father beat my grandmother, and died an alcoholic at 52. Did my father let my mother get away with slapping me... yes. That was a horrible thing to do, here's the thing though... He also worked 80 hours a week to live in a neighborhood with a good school district. Did my mother slap me too much? Did she scream a whole lot? Yes. Her father, beat the living crap out of her and everyone in her family, and people told her to slap me when I was bad. Teachers listened to bully peers, and told her I was starting fights with them, rather than the other way around. The state told her over and over again, that I was violent, while I was actually being bullied. All this after she got home from working 50 hour weeks.
I have lots of sympathy, for miserable, misinformed people. There is absolutely no reason not to. My father kept himself entirely in control, and my mother never hit me with a closed fist or implement. This is a huge improvement, and still nowhere near enough. She spent the next decade miserable, and constantly feeling bad for the slapping she did give me. Never blamed her parents, took full responsibility, and has been trying to make it up to me ever since. Life is hard, and for most people a painful struggle. I have sympathy for my mother, and if that makes you want to dismiss me out of hand, without knowing me, you haven't thought it through.