Hey guys, I was wondering what your thoughts would be on this final goodbye letter I'm planning to write to this woman I've spent a lot of time with this year. The briefest summary I can surmise is that this a woman I wanted to have a platonic friendship with, but I unfriended due to being lead on, as well as conflicting religious and relationship views. Within the spoiler button is a more detailed account of our backstory if you'd like to know more without having to go to the other threads I posted about this.
Below is the letter I want to write to her , but haven't decided on sending yet. I'm wondering if it's worth doing at all or if I should just leave it that: Official in person defriending (that was supposed to be temporary), then removing her from my Facebook list a couple months later.
A part of me feels like she deserves an explanation but I'm not sure if it's the right thing to do. Like am I so disposable to her that it won't matter, or she really did value as a friend and she would appreciate the honesty?
Goodbye, [Man Hopper's Name]. Thanks for the good times this year, it was nice getting to know you better! I am surprised by the many things we opened up about to each other and it felt great to be able to be vulnerable at that level. I am really sorry for your history with your parents (they are strict Catholics who shamed the hell out of her for her sexual drive), and what happened to you back in the Philipines (she got raped by her cousin), even right now I feel sad thinking about it all. I thank you for your vulnerability and being able to put that trust in me. It meant a lot to me for you to let me know that I can be trusted with very sensitive information. I really hope that I didn't come off as too judgemental and that I offered you the right kind of empathy on those things.But unfortunately, there were aspects of what I've discovered about you that conflicted with my core values. That's not to say that I want to write you off as a horrible person or anything, you're not. I think you're cool and really easy to talk to, but it was sometimes too easy as if you wanted to avoid disagreements in order to not upset me. I could be wrong, but it felt like there were many times I knew you didn't agree with me on a few things, and it would have been nice if you'd be honest and tell me instead of leading me to believe I was always right lol.Anyways, I just can't help but feel a little irritated when I think about some of our interactions. I'm not holding you accountable for the way I feel, I'm just saying that after a few exchanges we've had, there's an irritation I feel that may really have nothing to do with you. But as it stands, I don't know how I would feel about us being friends again the same way. In particular when I asked you if knowing how we felt about each other at some point in time changes everything and you said no, it just felt like that was one of those things I wish you gave me more honesty about.