My point was that there a certain appeal to belonging to a particular group in the way the group accepts you without really knowing you.
Not really. I wouldn't want to be a part of any organization that accepts me without knowing me. Most religions don't really do that though, they just give people a chance to introduce themselves to a community. If you share their values you are welcome, and if you move, they will try to introduce you to people in your next community. I share most religious values, I just think faith is a happiness claim, rather than a truth claim. "It would be nice to believe this".
Just like fans of a particular team will accept you just because you are wearing their colors.
People who like the same sport, in the same town, have a shared experience of rooting for that team, which provides them with a tiny degree of familiarity, but it doesn't grant them acceptance. You're trying to turn fun activities into a cult.
Do you have such a need to be accepted? After all you rather be dishonest and be accepted, You will be deceiving them. If they knew your true believes they would not see you as one of their own. Do you have a need to use these people?
This is really cruel nonsense, and I see atheists say things like this to people considering religion, all the time. I would never be dishonest to be accepted. There are agnostic and atheist sects of Judaism. There are Buddhist sects that only require belief in meditation. I believe in meditation. "If they knew your true believes they would not see you as one of their own", that's turning every religion into a fundamentalist cult, it's as bad as how fundamentalists feel about atheism, and it's fundamentally untrue.
I would be honest with any faith I would consider, and if my morality and desire to learn about their cultural traditions, wasn't enough for a particular sect... I would have no interest in it. I'm not going to use anyone, I have a genuine interest in morality, and 90 % of people use religion to pursue and talk about that morality. I might start going to a temple, and enjoying some ancient traditions, as part of that interest and to increase the number of people I can converse with in real life on moral topics. There is nothing dishonest about that.
You claim to be missing relationships and molding yourself in order to find one, yet on the "meat" thread you claim to be a monk and wanting to live on some land raising chickens and cows.
I'm not molding myself to find a relationship. I could use a significant other, and hopefully I'll meet her in the small town near my farm. We'll raise cows and chickens together. There's no contradiction here, except that I might need to find a small town near a Buddhist temple, or build one. The claim "Maybe it's a simple reproductive strategy, most available mates believe in religion"... Was me playing devils advocate. It's possible my biology is overpowering my rational sensibility. One has to be honest if that were occurring. Been single for awhile, it may be clouding my judgment, into employing unusual tactics.
I do have a genuine interest in several faiths, and especially in having ceremonies. My whole thing is that I wish Atheists got together and did fun stuff. I'd prefer to start hanging out at a 2.0 or + place, but they seem boring. I have relatively good relationships with my parents and a few friends though, just a bit too single... need to work on that. To be clear though, lying wouldn't help me. I'd never choose a religion that made me make affirmations to truth claims they can't provide evidence for. I would also never claim to believe in a religion, to stay with a significant other. One who would require that, wouldn't interest me. Could exploring new communities be a veiled reproductive strategy though? Sure, I can admit that... I'm human, it's totally possible.
"If I choose a religion, it will be very casual, or an afterthought of getting into a relationship." meant that if I meet a religious woman, who accepts that I'm an atheist, I would still give her faith a try, and see if I enjoy spending time participating in it. Again, provided she's not in a dogmatic religion, and won't try to force it on children. Where you and I differ, is that I'm certain that exists.
These questions are for you, to spark thoughts of why you think this way, I don't mean anything by them.