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S1988

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  1. The 2/14/18 Florida HS Shooting

    I think you make an excellent point. Tragedies like this may motivate more parents to consider homeschooling.
  2. Perhaps you can tap into your creative side and invent your own holiday. Who says you have to limit yourself to conventional ones? For example, you can create a holiday called [insert your surname here] Day and have the day focus on anything significant to you and your family.
  3. Nesting Necessary?

    You're welcome.
  4. Nesting Necessary?

    It looks like your family isn't going to change their ways anytime soon, so it looks like you have no choice but to leave them. Trying to change them won't work especially since they don't see anything wrong with their behavior. Leaving your family isn't an easy step to take, but it's sure a relieving one. I should know because I've been there TWICE. The first time I estranged from them was nine years ago. When I ran into some financial trouble a few years later, I moved in with my mother hoping that she changed, but she just wanted her own slave to kick around and my older siblings defended her behavior. I left again three years ago, and I never felt so free. A part of me still wishes that they would change, and I'm (slightly) open to the idea of having them in my life if they're willing to reform, but I highly doubt that's going to happen. It can be tough to not have kin to rely on sometimes, but you can use your estrangement to be your own family. Perhaps you can reach out and find a trustworthy friend or two. If you choose to leave your family, prepare to experience hoovering, a technique used by abusers in an attempt to lure their victims back to them. Here is more information on that: https://web.archive.org/web/20111219141505/http://lightshouse.org/lights-blog/when-toxic-people-start-hoovering
  5. How about a weekly family night? When I was a kid, my mother, sister, and I would go out every Tuesday night to a restaurant. It was short-lived, though, because my mother could no longer afford to do it. Hopefully, if you go with this option, it'd last for many years. It doesn't have to be on Tuesdays. Pick any day of the week you wish. You can go out to a restaurant or prepare a special meal, then watch a movie or play a game.
  6. Hello from North Dakota!

    Maybe he changed his mind about it, and there's nothing wrong with that. There was a time when I was into the saxophone, but I gradually lost interest in that. People change their minds about a lot of things throughout their lives. Haven't you? Most people aren't the same way their whole lives.
  7. Women Better Off as Property?

    I guess it depends on the obligation. Maybe. While they were people who tried to change me just to take advantage of me, I think others like my freshman math teacher meant well, but were misguided. There's nothing good or bad about having lots of companions or keeping to oneself; they're just different. I have no desire to be a parent; I think I'm better off being my own parent. Sometimes, it's better for one to not be a parent than to have a child and not be able to raise them well. I'm not against having children in general, but I'm against having them for the wrong reasons such as wanting someone to love or having kids so that they can carry out one's unaccomplished dreams. Besides, my problems, finances, and lifestyle make it inappropriate for me to have kids. I do have one friend, but she lives in a different state, and we keep in touch by email. Occasionally, I do visit her. That's fine with me because I don't need hundreds of friends to be content.
  8. Women Better Off as Property?

    I'm not sure where you got the idea that I'm miserable. As a matter of fact, I'm not sure why many people (who are usually non-loners themselves) think that loner=misery. My problem isn't my loner lifestyle itself; it's when people stick their noses into my lifestyle in attempt to "fix" me. I've got a lot of flak from people for that since childhood. I was once made to stay after school during my freshman year in high school to discuss my quiet, less-than-social behavior, as if that was a major problem or something. Miserable? Hardly. As a loner, I can do what I want when I want since I have few obligations. The idea of living with someone or having several friends is actually more of a burden than a blessing to me. That's a hallmark of many abusers in general, not just female ones. It's why most of them don't change because they rather blame the ones they hurt than hold themselves accountable for their actions.
  9. Women Better Off as Property?

    No way would I want to be someone's property. That's why I'm a loner so that I can retain my freedom. I've spent most of my life being pushed around by people, particularly "loved ones," and I fought hard to escape. If I wanted to live like I'm owned by someone, then I'd return to Queen Mother and her minions my older siblings, which is something I don't want to do. If that offends so people, well that's too bad. It's funny how the biggest control freaks are the ones who wouldn't want to be treated in such a way themselves, yet have no qualms about dominating others. Why should I care about their feelings when they don't care about mine?
  10. The only solution I can come up with is Googling him and get his email that way.
  11. Are women capable of agency?

    Well, it's true that most of us judge others. I do, too, but I'm quieter about it since I adhere to a live-and-let-live philosophy. What I was talking about was people who are overtly judgmental to the point that they stick their noses in my life and try to tell me how to live because it's not "normal," something I had to deal with most of my life. And, the interesting thing is that they wouldn't want to be treated in such a way, but I guess since I'm a quiet person, I'm "supposed" to take anything people dish at me. After all, I don't go to a group of people in public and tell them not to be so social. Why should I adopt an extrovert's way of living? I'm not hurting anyone. If that's not a double standard, I don't know what is. I was treated this way by family members, school staff, and even people who barely know me. Makes me wonder since I'm so boring and quiet, why do they want to be around me in the first place? If you're going to look down on me, at least do it with integrity.
  12. Are women capable of agency?

    I write stories, acrostics, commentary, and how-to/advice.
  13. Are women capable of agency?

    No, not at all.
  14. Are women capable of agency?

    Commentary and how-to/advice
  15. Are women capable of agency?

    Somewhat, but I just do it as a hobby. I also write some nonfiction and poetry.
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