I'm hoping to find some good answers on how to deal with my situation. I've considered turning into anti-social behaviour against my roommate, but I think it might be counter productive in the long run and thus haven't done so. My problem is my roommate on the other side of the wall who prevents me from falling asleep in the evening. He goes to work 1-2 hours later than me and thus goes to sleep later. I often request that he would use text chat option instead of voice chat, then he resorts to yelling most of the time.
On weekdays I wake up at either 5am or 4am. In bed at 8pm.
Here is my message to my landlord that I'm planning to send out. I welcome constructive feedback (doesn't have to relate to the message below).
(Names have been changed in this text)
Difficult roommate: Bob
Previous roommate: Peter
I'm tired and frustrated at the moment. If something doesn't change with Bob then something will change in me.
I got 2 problems:
1. I can't rest well due to noise from Bob's room (Chatter / Videos)
2. I'm feel threatened around Bob when I make a reasonable request since quite often he starts to yell at me.
I need around 8-9 hours of sleep each night in order to feel refreshed in the morning. This would mean that I need to go to bed around 8pm on normal week (wake up at 5am) but his anti-social behaviour prevents this. My body clock stays pretty much in the same rhyth on the weekends as during weekdays (on weekends I usually go to bed around 10pm or so).
However it's not easy at the moment because Bob is using voice chat during 8pm-10pm. I usually tell him 10 min in advance before going to bed so he can prepare to end the call. Today for instance I notified him at 8 pm that I'm going to bed. 30 minutes later he starts to use voice chat. I had to use earplugs and pull the bed cover on my ear. I can't fall to sleep when someone is talking right behind the wall. I tried it again tonight, it wasn't possible. At this point I'm pretty frustrated and tell Bob calmly that he could use the text chat option instead of voice chat.
Most of the time when I request this he starts yelling at me and continues the chatter as if nothing happened, this was the case today also. When we did it face to face once, I saw rage in his eyes. I usually get shaky feeling in my body after that (I'm currently shaking while writing this). I'm afraid his behaviour will start to affect me in work (and rental payments when I oversleep due to exhaustion) since I can't sleep enough.
I'm trying to stay calm when I request that he use text chat instead of voice chat, but It's getting very hard to do so as he isn't doing any effort to stay calm himself. I'm fearing that I'm not able to act in a reasonable way for very long into the future if he continues to yell at me.
I checked the rental agreement and it says this:
5. That landlord may terminate the tenancy in accordance with the Residential Tendencies Act 2004 due to anti-social behaviour by the tenant, or behaviour permitted
by the tenant withing the property.
I also checked the Residential Tendencies Act 2004:
h) not behave within the dwelling, or in the vicinity of it, in a
way that is anti-social or allow other occupiers of, or visit-
ors to, the dwelling to behave within it, or in the vicinity
of it, in such a way,
17.—(1) Insection 16—
‘‘behave in a way that is anti-social’’ means—
(a) engage in behaviour that constitutes the commission of an
offence, being an offence the commission of which is
reasonably likely to affect directly the well-being or wel-
fare of others,
(b) engage in behaviour that causes or could cause fear, danger,
injury, damage or loss to any person living, working or
otherwise lawfully in the dwelling concerned or its vicin-
ity and, without prejudice to the generality of the forego-
ing, includes violence, intimidation, coercion(1.), harassment (1.)
or obstruction of, or threats to, any such person, or
( c ) engage, persistently, in behaviour that prevents or interferes
with the peaceful occupation—
I never had these problems with Peter.
Can you get Peter to move back here or do something about this? I'dd rather not have someone yell at me on weekly basis.
Thanks in Advance!