If the child understands that her
mother is willing to respect the child's wishes within her financial
means while keeping the child safe, then I could easily imagine that the
child might find public school less palatable than some other imaginary
option but accept the fact that other options aren't viable.
If the child can process and accept all this, he/she is no longer a child. That is the central challenge.
Then, is a child only a "pre-rational creature" ?
Why would it be binary?
Are not if...then statements binary? I gathered that you were saying that if a child understands a mother's reason for her actions, then he/she is no longer a child. Did I misunderstand you? I am merely curious on when you think this transition occurs.