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[quote user="tasmlab"]How do you think the baby/firelog would play out if after I offered to help with that if she pulled away and suggested she would do it by herself? Do I then have to fall back to a 'no' position?[/quote] If you have the time and the patience, you can say "sure, no problem" and let her have a go at doing
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[quote user="Snipes777"]Intent is irrelevant.[/quote] Sure, I agree. Intent is irrelevant to the philosophy and practise of peaceful parenting. But if someone has claimed ill-intent by tasmlabs, and if I don't see evidence of that ill-intent, I think it's reasonable (and couteous to tasmlabs) to say so.
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Joseito, in my experience it rarely leads to edification when a discussion starts focusing on tedious minutae, so I'm not going to pursue it.
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A big city has so much more to offer to anyone who doesn't just want to be one of the sheeple. I think going to a big city is a great move for a person in your situation. This doesn't mean that the transition will be easy. Having some savings is a good start, but getting work (or some other regular income) is the key. If it were me, I'd
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[quote user="Joseito"] [quote user="ribuck"] [quote user="Joseito"]this is ... about finding excuses to communicate to the child that his own mind and senses cannot be trusted, and that he will forever need the authority of a higher power[/quote] That's the effect, but I don't think it's the motivation. I'm
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[quote user="tasmlab"]... I'll let my five year old put a log on the fire. The two year old wants to do the same and picks up an oversized log. I can gently say "no, let daddy do that" to the two year old and if she's in a mood she'll cry for a second.[/quote] But why does she cry? She cries because her self-esteem is
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[quote user="Joseito"]this is ... about finding excuses to communicate to the child that his own mind and senses cannot be trusted, and that he will forever need the authority of a higher power[/quote] That's the effect, but I don't think it's the motivation. I'm sure tamslab's genuine motivation is to avoid his child being
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[quote user="tasmlab"]As a parent, you find yourself trying to take the knife away from the two year old and the kid will freak out...[/quote] You don't need to take knives from toddlers. The kid will lose interest in a minute and put the knife down, provided you haven't drawn attention to it. If you can't wait a minute, just give
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[quote user="STer"]I don't get it. Who thinks of terrorism only in terms of economic damage? Isn't it the loss of life that's more the issue?[/quote] For sure, loss of life is a bigger issue, but it's not the relevant one. It's already well-understood that many more lives can be saved, much more cheaply and easily, by
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[quote user="counterbalance"]my concern is that I can never connect with her as I do my own flesh and blood[/quote] That's understandable. You have been with your own children since their birth, so you are always going to know them better than you know someone else's child. I don't think of this as a problem. Assuming that you