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  • Tue, Jan 3 2012 12:18 PM

    "Punishment Helps Kids Learn to Lie"

    http://www.huffingtonpost.com/art-markman-phd/punishment-helps-kids-lea_b_1179792.html#es_share_ended

      To explore lying, the children were first given a temptation. The experimenter told the children that a toy was being hidden behind them. The experimenter said that she had to leave the room for a moment and that the child should not turn around and peek at the toy while she was gone.

    This situation is quite tempting, and most children end up turning around and looking at the toy. When the experimenter returns, she asks the children whether they peeked.

    At the school where the children are punished often, about 90 percent of them lied to the experimenter and said that they did not look at the toy. In the school that did not use harsh punishments, only about half of the children lied.

     

    Read the article for more, but this is more conformation of much of what FDR's views on parenting.

  • Tue, Jan 3 2012 12:44 PM In reply to

    • Jalla
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    Re: "Punishment Helps Kids Learn to Lie"

    JamesCarlin:
    Read the article for more, but this is more conformation of much of what FDR's views on parenting.

    Thus, if we take away punishment for breaking the rules, we get more children who admit their wrong doings. How shocking!

    Now, let's get rid of all the laws. Crimicals telling the truth is much more important than protecting against them!

    FDR is for clowns. All reasonable men know pain is necessary to get to a higher level of understanding. FDR doesn't produce liberty loving human beings. In fact, quite the opposite. Weak upbringing always give us humans with respect for authority, an authority anarchists with necessity must want to get rid of. Weak upbringing produces drop outs. No masters or PhD. It is not enough to appeal to a child's consciousness to help him get the most out of his life. Children is like water, following the easiest way, always, if not lead, also hardly. Violence is a necessary glue in society. Words are shown to be not enough to stop undesirable action. You will not find a single human being contributing with new knowledge without also finding a dramatic life and violent upbringing. Soft upbringing produce one thing and one thing only: M E D I O C R I T Y !

  • Tue, Jan 3 2012 8:44 PM In reply to

    Re: "Punishment Helps Kids Learn to Lie"

    Jalla:

    JamesCarlin:
    Read the article for more, but this is more conformation of much of what FDR's views on parenting.

    Thus, if we take away punishment for breaking the rules, we get more children who admit their wrong doings. How shocking!

    Now, let's get rid of all the laws. Crimicals telling the truth is much more important than protecting against them!

    This is one of the more transparent trolls I've read in a while, but I couldn't help but point out that people who tell the truth aren't, almost by definition, criminals.

  • Wed, Jan 4 2012 2:57 AM In reply to

    • Polly
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    Re: "Punishment Helps Kids Learn to Lie"

     Interesting article indeed. I'm currently getting really into NVC in preparation for being a parent in June, and this type of study reflects what NVC holds to be true also.

  • Thu, Jan 12 2012 9:31 AM In reply to

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    Re: "Punishment Helps Kids Learn to Lie"

    What is punishment? A lecture on the reasons why a child is doing wrong could be considered punishment?

  • Thu, Jan 12 2012 10:31 AM In reply to

    • Mira
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    Re: "Punishment Helps Kids Learn to Lie"

    Jalla:

    JamesCarlin:
    Read the article for more, but this is more conformation of much of what FDR's views on parenting.

    Thus, if we take away punishment for breaking the rules, we get more children who admit their wrong doings. How shocking!

    Now, let's get rid of all the laws. Crimicals telling the truth is much more important than protecting against them!

     

    I don't think you expected anyone to agree with you, but I loved that you said "Now, let's get rid of all the laws. Criminals telling the truth is much more important ..." I think there would be a complete revolution in society if the criminals started telling the truth. It's not "much more" important, but it's very important imho. We need to get to the truths to be able to prevent crime efficiently.

    I think it would be a huge leap forward and beneficial to all. It would become much easier to protect society from them and to help them. But you try imagining it and tell me what you think would happen? Like, follow the train of thought that you had.

    I believe that it's violence that creates criminals in the first place. You have to destroy a human beings self worth completely to have him or her believe that they cannot make it in life without committing crimes, for them to become criminals. 

     

  • Thu, Jan 12 2012 12:23 PM In reply to

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    Yeah, so let's not punish kids so they can do whatever they want

    ...

    I don't understand the wisdom of this finding. Evil has no boundaries. That doesn't mean you shouldn't do anything about it.

  • Fri, Jan 13 2012 9:06 AM In reply to

    • Mira
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    Re: "Punishment Helps Kids Learn to Lie"

    DaveDoggOwns:

    Yeah, so let's not punish kids so they can do whatever they want

     

    Why would it bother you if they do whatever they want? Children have no natural inclination to do harmful things. They have needs that they're trying to have met the best they can. Just like any of us.

     

     

  • Fri, Jan 13 2012 2:49 PM In reply to

    Re: "Punishment Helps Kids Learn to Lie"

    Dave are you afraid that if there were no one to punish you, you would do thinds you find immoral?

  • Fri, Jan 13 2012 2:52 PM In reply to

    Re: "Punishment Helps Kids Learn to Lie"

    Parents talk about the need for punishment and threats to keep their children from doing 'bad things', but maybe if you can't present a compelling enough reason why they shouldn't do it, it's not so bad after all.

  • Fri, Jan 13 2012 5:11 PM In reply to

    • Ivan
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    Re: "Punishment Helps Kids Learn to Lie"

    DaveDoggOwns:

    Yeah, so let's not punish kids so they can do whatever they want

    ...

    I don't understand the wisdom of this finding. Evil has no boundaries. That doesn't mean you shouldn't do anything about it.

     

    I'm noticing a lot of derailment in this thread, and I had a few thoughts that might be of some relevance...

     

    I think it might be useful if we try to be more specific in what we're actually saying in the words punishment, evil, and so on. If we define punishment as the appropriate response to crime, then lack of punishment is necessarily overly lenient, right? But if we instead define punishment as a negative response to any behavior, i.e. physical punishment for stepping on a crack on the sidewalk, then it becomes clear that not punishing the offender is not necessarily wrong per se, and it can even be virtuous to refrain from punishing a non-crime. In the context of the experiment, there is nothing virtuous in the commandment to the child to not to look at a toy. It's an arbitrary rule, and the children seem to realize without much deliberation that the rule is nonsense, and if asked I would guess that very few of them would say they felt any guilt about breaking the rule.

     

    Then there is the lying. I'm reminded of Rothbard on this, when he distinguishes the moral from the legal, legal here being used not to refer to arbitrary State edicts but nearly universal elements of common law. Isn't it interesting how natural law libertarians tend to agree that lying is immoral, but few would suggest that it be a crime? Because it isn't an act of aggression, i.e. the child is committing no aggression in the experiment. To speak of punishing the child for it is entirely inappropriate. It's akin to the randomness of religion in which children are punished for culturally variable sins like eating pork or wearing the wrong hat in the same degree of seriousness as for hurting others or stealing, which perverts the child's sense of virtue.

     

    That's what I came to mind as I read along, in the first hostile response to this thread and then your own (not to associate yours with the other, I'm only saying that both posts gave me similar thoughts). The distinction between crimes of aggression and unjust rules is a significant one. The dichotomy of punishment versus lenience seems to me to be a false one, as there is no virtue in either. Rather, it is what is punished or forgiven that matters. I would think poorly of a parent who punishes their child for not wearing a sweater they knitted for them, but similarly hold a negative opinion of someone who forgives their sibling's murderer with no restitution paid or apology given.

    And I believe that's the point being made here; unjust punishment erodes the healthy respect in children for justice. It's really easy to understand that when we see its large-scale implications. Heavily religious societies tend to have more arbitrary rules that are as brutally enforced as the more justified ones, like sanctions against rape and murder being held as equal in virtue to keeping the Sabbath or not shaving or any stupid sacred custom. Consequently, those societies tend towards higher rates of violent crime; the major factor is that institutionalized injustice breeds disrespect and intolerance for all authority, including the elements of true justice. You get a kind of neo-nihilism in criminals who see no meaningful difference between smoking crack and killing a baby; they're both just rules enforced by a bigger, badder bully. On the other hand, a child who is only taught good rules like 'don't hit', 'don't steal', et cetera, will learn the utility of those rules, as not becoming an aggressor (and thus being ostracized or violently defended against), and also as a victim by also having the same rights to not being hit or stolen from.

  • Fri, Jan 13 2012 5:30 PM In reply to

    • Ivan
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    Re: "Punishment Helps Kids Learn to Lie"

    Jalla:

    JamesCarlin:
    Read the article for more, but this is more conformation of much of what FDR's views on parenting.

    Thus, if we take away punishment for breaking the rules, we get more children who admit their wrong doings. How shocking!

    Now, let's get rid of all the laws. Crimicals telling the truth is much more important than protecting against them!

    FDR is for clowns. All reasonable men know pain is necessary to get to a higher level of understanding. FDR doesn't produce liberty loving human beings. In fact, quite the opposite. Weak upbringing always give us humans with respect for authority, an authority anarchists with necessity must want to get rid of. Weak upbringing produces drop outs. No masters or PhD. It is not enough to appeal to a child's consciousness to help him get the most out of his life. Children is like water, following the easiest way, always, if not lead, also hardly. Violence is a necessary glue in society. Words are shown to be not enough to stop undesirable action. You will not find a single human being contributing with new knowledge without also finding a dramatic life and violent upbringing. Soft upbringing produce one thing and one thing only: M E D I O C R I T Y !

     

    I hadn't considered that violence might be a critical foundation for greatness, at least not since I've considered myself a voluntaryist. You may be right! Surprise Would you care to meet up? I could help you achieve greatness, and it would be a test of your ideas. I could punish you for whatever faults I perceive in you; no need to worry, trust me, I have a good sense of morality and I'll punish you in accordance to strong upbringing. Perhaps if you say a rude word or stay out too late at night, I could punch your nose and leave a gentle bruise. More serious transgressions like doing poorly in your work will of course require more serious punishment; simply removing your privilege to your property won't do. I suppose I could resort to forcing you into solitary confinement in your bedroom; ideally you will become bored with nothing to do and be left to grow a sense of guilt until you understand that what you've done to deserve that punishment is wrong. And of course, if you do something really bad, like try to fight back when I am giving you your just punishment or try to escape your home, I will arrange to have you kidnapped and sent off to a camp for unruly brats like you.

     

    If this arrangement doesn't sound too appealing to you, it means you're human. Think about it; no child would voluntarily desire these kinds of conditions. These kinds of childhoods only occur because they have no choice. They don't choose which parents they are born to, they cannot leave, and the greater society as a general whole doesn't respect the child as a human being. What is clearly abuse when done to adults is somehow virtuous as a method of training a child. But it isn't virtuous. We know this because adults do not voluntarily submit themselves to the abuses of authority figures like my hyperbolic (but only slightly so) example. If you can't even get adults to agree to those conditions, why on earth would you inflict them on the most helpless and impressionable caste of human beings?

  • Thu, Jan 26 2012 7:36 PM In reply to

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    Mira:

    DaveDoggOwns:

    Yeah, so let's not punish kids so they can do whatever they want

     

    Why would it bother you if they do whatever they want? Children have no natural inclination to do harmful things. They have needs that they're trying to have met the best they can. Just like any of us.

     

    Because some of things they might want to do may hurt them? Hasn't it ever occured to you that not everyone (especially children) is rational?

  • Thu, Jan 26 2012 7:37 PM In reply to

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    kneelingatlas:

    Dave are you afraid that if there were no one to punish you, you would do thinds you find immoral?

    You're talking to my adult self......

  • Thu, Jan 26 2012 7:38 PM In reply to

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    kneelingatlas:

    Parents talk about the need for punishment and threats to keep their children from doing 'bad things', but maybe if you can't present a compelling enough reason why they shouldn't do it, it's not so bad after all.

    You can't reason with people that are unreasonable. You're automatically assuming children are rational.

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