I have been single for close to 8 years now
due to a personal crisis and severe depression. Luckily I'm done with
that part of my life
and I'm eager to move on.
May I say I am sorry that you suffered such a crisis and I applaud your achievement of dispelling the depression. May your life continue to improve.
There is a part of me that
would love to get into a healthy relationship with someone that brings
out the best in me and vica versa.
However, despite my 8 years
of not having sex I don't feel the urge to go on a women hunt.
I admire your willingness to share your personal feelings here, this will help others to learn more about themselves, too.
Now my "gear" for the lack of a better word functions fine. And I do masturbate.
Does this sound like I'm asexual?
Not by my understanding of the word. The fact that you notice women and notice them noticing you is an indicator against asexuality.
And the fact that you can become aroused and reach a climax indicates that you have a defininte sexuality.
All men I know create images in their mind (or watch them on a screen) while engaged in this activity. What (or who) you imagine yourself doing can provide some information as to what you might find desirable in the real world. Magnus'
advice about health sounds good but unless you're spending hours a day
watching porn, I don't see that as an issue and what you do watch may be
a source of information for further self-knowledge
I've never felt the urge to 'go on a women hunt' either but I have found that I've been able to create pleasant and intimate relationships. You indicate that you have been alone for 8 years, have you ever been in a relationship? What was this like? If not satisfying, it seems rational that you would be reticent to expose yourself to the discomfort of another bad pairing. I would think it would be helpful for you to continue to ask questions and be curious about labels like 'asexual' and delve into the experiences you have had and the feelings that come up for you.
"The world is too dangerous for anything but truth
and too small for anything but love" - William Sloan Coffin
"Our state regards us not as citizens but, at best, an inconvenient collection of would be criminals."
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